Drama Triangle: from ‘role’ to ‘play’

‘The Drama Triangle’ is a model of toxic relationships that has stood the test of time… it’s been around for 40 or so years and is still helpful.  There’s a good video that introduces it here, but essentially it suggests that we play one of three roles in any...

Communication: i before u

When we communicate we often want someone to understand our inner world… what we think, how we feel, what’s really going on for us… this is inviting empathy.  Quite often when we’re angry, or hurt, we start to communicate in a way that makes empathy less likely… we...

Active Listening: I hear you

Ever find yourself just waiting for someone to stop talking so you can have your say, or you’ve got a response ready before they have finished?  I’m pretty sure we all do it, and I’m pretty sure it’s not a good way to communicate.  Usually, the other person feels that...